10 Ways to Create Meaning in Your Days
Do you feel connected? Part of something bigger than you?
This is a theme that’s been coming at me from all angles* recently, and the penny dropped when I realised that one of my three words (yep, I own them. You can borrow them as you wish) is Connection.
I want to feel connected.
To myself – I want to know myself and love myself (and not in the exhibitionist hashtag-self-love way, but in the way that makes people calm, open, confident, non-judgemental and happy).
To my family – I love the two dudes in my life (one big, one little), I am fabulous friends with my sister, my brother and my sister in law, I love my less-little-all-the-time niece and my mum deserves a friggin medal. Plus extended family, and memories of family who are gone but I will always love (Hi Dad).
To my friends – they are SO important to me. My besties are the people I plan to see as often as possible, we talk for realz about The Big Stuff but can also laugh to see such fun.
To my Adventurers – you guys reading this make everything possible, and I love having you here as part of my world. The conversations, emails and welcoming you to events are what make me jump up with a hell YEAH! each day ready to do more, make more, live a full life.
One of my favourite quotes at the moment is from Annie Dillard
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
So my mind has been mulling over these things for a while, and brought me to here. Ten ways to create meaning in your days, as meaningful days lead to a meaningful life.
1. Get to know yourself.
I managed to ‘busy’ my way out of really thinking about anything for quite a long time. As I rushed from one thing to another, I never had to think about whether the busyness was making me happy. I learn a lot about myself in meditation, on the yoga mat, horse riding and parenting.
All those things shine a light on whatever is not working. Generally the ‘whatever’ is something that’s going on with my thoughts (too many, too negative, too busy).
I think this is a lifelong process, but without consciously trying to hold that mirror up to yourself, you will never really know yourself, which is the foundation for a good life.
2. Connect with your loved ones.
Spend your time with people you love who love you back. Make space in your days, your dreams and your lives for the people who lift you up, and lift them up in return.
3. Be a beacon
At Camp Good Life Project, Jonathan Fields spoke of the people who live and work in such alignment with their values that they become beacons, who naturally draw their tribe around them.
Be a beacon. Live, work, play, dream all in alignment with your true values, so when you look at any area of your life you think ‘yes, I’m happy being me like that’.
4. Be kind.
This is a lesson I have had to really learn. I use to be impatient, always right, and not that interested in exploring what other people thought. I take things more calmly now, and as much as I can, I am kind to the people around me. Even if I disagree.
5. Let the little moments be enough.
Sometimes the little moments are all that we have. Over the past year I’ve spent a lot of time at home with the little dude. Changing nappies, feeding, waiting while he sleeps. But we have beautiful little moments every day. We laugh while I feed him, today we splashed in the pool, he loved it, I loved it. These moments are the everyday adventures that build a life you love, as the little moments are what make up the big years.
I also love reading, lying on the floor with a slice of sun pouring over me. Small moments of beauty which make my life beautiful
6. Know what drives you.
For me, you’ve seen the words around here: Freedom, Adventure, Connection, Joy, Light (as in, a lightness of being, a playfulness). When I do things that help be more of any of those things, then I’m moving towards a life that will make me happy.
What do you need in your life to be happy?
7. Chase your dreams
Don’t put it off until tomorrow, as tomorrow may not come. Or it will, and you’ll wish you started today. Sometimes it’s hard, and it will definitely be scary, but if you don’t let your dreams unfold then you are already dying a slow desk at the cubicle.
8. Build your vitality
Without your life force, you don’t have the building block you need for everything else. Be healthy, eat foods that nourish your body and mind, exercise, move, get enough sleep, spend some time in silence, use your brain. All these things are part of the crucial foundation to make everything else possible.
So you can move forward with grace. Before we forgive, the past stays with us, holds us back. Forgiveness is difficult, but you can do it.
A simple mantra:
I forgive you, I love you, and I’m sorry.
I forgive you – so I can let the past stay in the past, and live my life from here.
I love you – because love always grows. Send love out into the world and it will come back to you.
I’m sorry – because there are always two players in any interaction. We each play a part in creating and shaping our own reality. Apologise to them, and to yourself.
10. Live for yourself, not others
It’s important not to sideline yourself for others’ expectations or demands. Parents, spouses, children, friends, colleagues…
If you spend your whole life following someone else’s dreams, then one day you’re going to look around you and realise that you’re not living for yourself, and everything you’ve grown and done is for someone else. But in the end, it’s only you who has to live your life.
Now get on out there and live it!
*The recent messages about community have come from: Chris Guilllebeau recently launched his book The Happiness of Pursuit (claim to mini fame, mine was the first book signed in the whole tour!), Jonathan Fields and his revolution manifesto, Scott Dinsmore sharing more of his Live Your Legend story… but hang on, where are the ladies on that list??
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