Create Connections by Paying It Forward

At the start of this year a Facebook chain letter was making the rounds and I joined in.

The Everyday Adventure

To continue this year off in a loving way I’m participating in this Pay-It-Forward initiative: The first five people who comment on this status with “I’m in”, will receive a surprise from me at some point in this calendar year – anything from a book, a ticket, a visit, something home-grown or made, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy. …These five people must make the same offer in their FB status and distribute their own joy. Simply copy this text onto your profile, so we can form a web of connection and kindness. Let’s do more nice and loving things for each other in 2014, without any reason other than to make each other smile and to show that we think of each other. Here’s to a more enjoyable, more friendly and love filled year.

I participated because I’m massively driven by connections.

I love making new friends, keeping the old and spreading joy. And when I’m bringing laughter to the people around me that’s when I think I’m at my best!

But three months have passed, and I hadn’t sent anything out. So I’ve started paying it forward to spread a little bit of joy and create amazing connections with people.

Present One

Was a night out at The Boy With Tape on His Face at the Melbourne Comedy Festival. Two tickets, for my friend and his wife (also my friend). I saw this dude at the Adelaide Fringe a few years ago and laughed a lot, it’s a funny show.


And friend 1 said the present couldn’t have come at a better time. So look what happened! I paid it forward, strengthened a connection AND did it right when they needed it. Win!

Present Two

Was a ring and a bracelet.



My friend’s a bit of a groover, and always wears cool jewellery. I knew what I wanted to try to find, when another friend posted a picture on Facebook of exactly it! So I threw the little dude into the car (by placing him gently), sped down to Bondi (sticking to the speed limit the whole way, officer) and bought her an ace present.

Then the next time I saw her in person, SHE WAS WEARING THEM! I love when that happens. Side note: She didn’t know she was going to see me that day.

Friend 2 said ‘I’m impressed! I opened it and I thought yep, she knows me’. Double win!

More connection, more joy-in-a-little-box, more happiness for everyone.

I’ve been interested to see how much happiness I’ve derived myself from getting notes back from the giftees. It’s given me a little hop in my step to receive a thank you message and know that I’ve sent a little love bomb out into the world; who knew gifting could be so fun!

So here’s a simple challenge to help you boost a friendship:

Pay it Forward.

Send something nice to someone you love, with a little card to say it’s just because. It can be homemade, a little postcard, something small – this isn’t about the money spent but the connection forged and the thought made.

Let me know how you go with the challenge!

I’ve got 4 more pay it forward gifts to give so those lucky friends should be watching this space.

Did you post that on your timeline this year? Have you actually paid it forward yet? Hop to it!

Xx Sam



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29 Comments on Create Connections by Paying It Forward

  1. Camesha
    April 16, 2014 at 3:07 PM (4 years ago)

    My friend posted that in his timeline. I thought it was a great idea. I intended to do it. Not sure why I haven’t. hmm…

    Paying it forward is awesome. Love the jewelry you got your friend. 🙂

    • samantha
      April 16, 2014 at 10:07 PM (4 years ago)

      You should do it now! It’s never too late, and you’ll spark another round of it! xx

  2. Court
    April 16, 2014 at 12:13 PM (4 years ago)

    Brilliant idea. I absolutely love it : ) Now to challenge myself!

    • samantha
      April 16, 2014 at 10:06 PM (4 years ago)

      Do it!! And then let me know what you do 😀

  3. Krystal Bernier
    April 12, 2014 at 11:19 PM (4 years ago)

    What a wonderful idea. You are acing this challenge. I look forward to hearing more about how this goes for you. I may have to participate with my own friends.

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 7:56 PM (4 years ago)

      Do it Krystal!!! It’s such a great way to spread happiness! xx

  4. Warren
    April 12, 2014 at 5:03 PM (4 years ago)

    Yes, The Boy With Tape on His Face was an awesome night out – and I even got to participate in the show. Thanks very much for the tickets 🙂

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 7:57 PM (4 years ago)

      ahhhhhh I’m so happy that you were asked up on stage!!! That is perfect 😀
      So glad you enjoyed it xx

  5. Hannah Ransom
    April 12, 2014 at 6:21 AM (4 years ago)

    Awesome! I love doing nice things for people and seeing them all lit up about it 🙂 Good stuff.

  6. Angelica
    April 12, 2014 at 2:24 AM (4 years ago)

    I LOVE this, thank you for sharing! 🙂

  7. Summer Howard
    April 12, 2014 at 1:35 AM (4 years ago)

    Very cool idea, and it’s one of the few viral ideas I HAVEN’T seen on FaceBook. I’m with Jennifer Kennedy, when in the mood, I PIF strangers with coffee or a toll. Connecting to 5 people on FB with this kind of love is excellent. Doing it now!!

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:01 PM (4 years ago)

      Fantastic Summer!!
      I love the idea of the stranger pay it forward, as well. I think I’m going to have to get onto that! xx

  8. Shannon
    April 11, 2014 at 11:44 PM (4 years ago)

    Love the idea behind this. Thanks for the reminder to send the people I love something nice, just because! 🙂

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:02 PM (4 years ago)

      A pleasure Shannon! xxx

  9. Anne Omland
    April 11, 2014 at 11:30 AM (4 years ago)

    Beautiful concept Sammy! I totally see you this way- thoughtful and spreading the love.
    Challenge: accepted. Thanks for sharing!

  10. Sarah Koszyk
    April 11, 2014 at 10:30 AM (4 years ago)

    Love this idea! “Just because” is so great and how awesome do we feel when we get something amazing like this randomly! Great idea to brighten someone’s day (and mine too).

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:04 PM (4 years ago)

      Sarah the thing that surprised me a bit was just how excited I was putting the pressies into the post.
      It totally brightened my day as well! xx

  11. Andrea - LifeAfterBread Health Coaching
    April 11, 2014 at 2:53 AM (4 years ago)

    Ooh! Ooh! I’m so excited because I already know exactly who I’m going to PIF to and what I’m going to do and they are going to love it! See, the positivity is working already and I haven’t even done it yet 🙂 Thanks for this great reminder, Samantha

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:03 PM (4 years ago)

      Oh fantastic!! Once you’ve done it, come back and tell me what it was! xx

  12. Suzi
    April 11, 2014 at 2:42 AM (4 years ago)

    Awesome. I saw a really cute and unique pay-it-forward idea the other day…someone had taped a bag of popcorn next to a movie vending machine (like a Redbox). And there was a little note about random acts of kindness. Totally agree with what Elizabeth said above…it’s about letting others know they are known, seen and understand. Sweet post. (BTW there are entire pinboards on Pinterest that have random acts of kindness ideas!

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:03 PM (4 years ago)

      Suzi that’s an amazing idea!! I love it!
      I am going to check out pinterest as well, this comments thread has got me thinking that it would be fun to spread the love much wider! xx

  13. April D. Thompson
    April 10, 2014 at 10:46 PM (4 years ago)

    I saw the post on a few people’s timelines and thought about doing it on my Facebook Fan Page, but never got around to it. Despite not making that larger public gesture, one of my morning thoughts/prayers is to make a difference in someone’s life everyday. I try to be mindful each day of my actions and do those little things that put a smile on someone’s face, whether I know them or not. Great post!

    • samantha
      April 15, 2014 at 8:02 PM (4 years ago)

      That’s beautiful April.

  14. Anna Long-Stokes
    April 10, 2014 at 11:09 AM (4 years ago)

    Love this concept and this post! You are such a dear 😉

    • samantha
      April 10, 2014 at 7:12 PM (4 years ago)

      Thanks Anna! Glad you like it 😀

  15. Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin
    April 10, 2014 at 10:31 AM (4 years ago)

    So smart! One thing I love so much is the ways in which paying it forward like this surprises others by making them feel seen, known and understood. You’ve inspired me– I’ve got a friend who needs something like this right now. 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

    • samantha
      April 10, 2014 at 7:13 PM (4 years ago)

      oh awesome! Do it!!! I’m sure it will strengthen your bond xx

  16. Jennifer Kennedy
    April 10, 2014 at 9:32 AM (4 years ago)

    Such a fantastic idea!! Recently, I did PIF when I paid for a stranger’s dinner. He was very appreciative and it made me feel good, too!
    I’ll definitely need to look for other ways I can spread the joy to family and friends. I tend to take them and the things they do for granted. It’s great to show appreciation!! Thanks for the reminder!

    • samantha
      April 10, 2014 at 9:44 AM (4 years ago)

      that’s such a great idea! My pay it forward attempts have so far been focused on people I’m already friends with, but I love the idea of sending the love to complete strangers. xx


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