The Biggest Thing You’ve Never Regretted
What’s the biggest thing you’ve never regretted?
I used to take lots of risks. Then I grew up. Or got older, at least, and started worrying about money, settling down, putting my nonexistent kids through school… and the risk-taking dried up. All of a sudden I realised I was a bit afraid of change (when I used to embrace it!)
So often fear stops us in our tracks. We think we need to settle down, get a mortgage, be sensible – or even worse, realistic and live like everyone else. I know too many people who don’t like their job but feel tied in because of all the things they ‘need’.
Do you ever find yourself telling yourself all the reasons why you CAN’T do something:
- I don’t have time
- I can’t afford it right now
- It’s not realistic to think that will work
- I’ve got to grow up at some point
- I’ll do it when I’ve saved a bit more
Really, all those excuses are about fear.
When I look back, my bag of no-regrets adventures are some of my favourite memories!:
- Quitting my grad job in a big 4 accounting firm well before I qualified as a Chartered Accountant and moving to London to sleep on friends’ floors and hope for a job. Got a job, travelled loads, met my husband.
- Travelling solo around Italy making friends with EVERYONE when I was 22 after bravely ditching a very controlling boyfriend.
- Heading to Sweden to finish uni, going dog sledding above the arctic circle with my bestie, cross country skiing on the snow-covered frozen Baltic Sea
- Spending a year travelling around Africa, South America and India with my radical husbandito.
- Leaving my big job in a big firm for big money to find something that makes me passionate and excited.
- Spending the energy to invest in my friends. It takes time, and effort, and energy, and I love it.
Good times, right!?
So what are you afraid of right now?
What do you think you need but if you really ask yourself Why? you can’t answer yourself well?
What do your excuses stop you doing?
Don’t get me wrong, you can choose to live a stable life, in a stable home, and have a stable job with kids and a mortgage and a dog. But the point is you must choose it. Decide that’s what you want, and go after it with everything you’ve got, because if you can’t approach it with everything, then why give it anything. Find something that moves you.
Don’t die with your music still inside you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. Listen to that inner voice, and don’t get to the end of your life and say, ‘What if my whole life has been wrong?’
– Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
I’ve found myself a bit paralysed by fear lately. There are things I want to do and changes I want to make, but I haven’t been doing them (see excuses listed above, plus plenty more!). There’s an impending change that I can’t control now though, as I’m about to give birth to my first kidlet. That ought to be a bit of a shake up!
I’m also life planning. Successful people set goals, so I’m setting some goals for my life. I’ll take you through that later on, but for today, I have a challenge for you.
- Look at something you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t. Ask yourself WHY? Work out what’s holding you back (bet you 5 big ones there’s a bit of fear going on in there) and see if you can make one small change towards your fear. Lean into your growing edge and make your life expand.
- Then comment below – What’s your dream? What step can you take towards it?
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