The Journey Is The Point

This message is coming at me from all directions lately.

journey

image by London Illustrator, Charlotte Trounce

And another good one:

The journey is the reward

– Steve Jobs

And I finally realised, it’s time to listen.

Sometimes I fall into the trap of pining for more. Something bigger, better, more fulfilling. More time, more activity, more friends. I fall into a feeling of lack. I also look to The End.

I used to want to just find the career that would make me happy so I could stop worrying about what I would do with my life– but careers evolve and it’s the evolution and learning that is so fulfilling.

I had Destination: Happiness in my sights. But it wasn’t really, because you can’t be happy in the future, you can only be happy now. Right where you are. I was wishing away the present to get to the future – where I’d be happy – without doing anything to make myself happy in my ‘current’.

It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
– Ernest Hemingway

When I worked in my first big corporate job, I can remember thinking “it’s a long life”. Then I thought, “I’m 23! This can’t be how I feel about the rest of my life!” I was wishing away my weeks for my weekends, and my life for that glorious end point where I was going to be happy. But now I can see with certainty that I was never going to get to that happy ending if I didn’t do something to make it a happy journey.

The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.

– Marjorie Pay Hinckley

So as the message has come up so many times recently, I have done a bit of introspection, as well as taking inspiration from people I admire who are happy in their day to day (which means they’re happy in their lives) and looked at where I find my peace.

I realised:

I’m happiest when I’m right where I want to be and I want to be right where I am. I’m not looking forwards, or backwards, or sideways, or wishing my moments away.

And that’s the journey, after all, isn’t it.

Moments I’ve loved in the past week are:

  • Hiking in the woods with my husband. Talking, strolling, occasionally holding hands when the path was wide enough. I had nowhere else in the world to be, and no one else I wanted to be there with. We were lost in the moment, connecting with nature, each other and ourselves.
  • Playing with the little dude as he climbed all over me and pashed* my face laughing. I love that little laugh, and once it gets going there’s nothing I want more than to make it continue. I had nowhere else in the world to be, and no one else I wanted to be there with. We were both right in the moment, connecting with each other.
  • Horse riding, on the new horse I’m leasing. I had so much fun that I lost track of time, and I each ride is getting better and better as we get to know each other and can start to bond. As I rode around the arena I had nowhere else in the world to be, and no one else I wanted to be there with. I was right there in the moment, connecting with my horse, listening to my body.
  • Reading a wonderful book for a couple of hours while both dudes slept late at night. I get lost in the pages of a good book, the characters come alive in my imagination and I forget about everything else. One of my all time favourite things to do it stay up late, snuggled up in bed, enraptured by a book. As I lay next to my sleeping love and read, I had nowhere else in the world to be, and no one else I wanted to be there with. I was right there in the moment, turning my pages, listening to my husband breathing next to me and the occasional murmur from the baby.

They’re all small. Part of the journey. All about connecting – with myself, my loved ones, nature, my imagination. These moments ARE the journey, and they are the reason for being. Without these moments of bliss, suspended in time, happy with no desire to change anything or be anywhere else, then the destination can’t be enough.

As we will have missed a life to get to the end point.

This is a lesson I need to keep on learning. Be here, now, and live for these moments, whatever they are. After all

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.

– Annie Dillard

Love the moments, love the days, and you’ll love your life.

Xx Sam

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*pash = aussie slag for passionately kiss. Mouth open, tongue out. It makes for a very wet cheek when pashed by a baby

 

 

 

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26 Comments on The Journey Is The Point

  1. April
    July 14, 2014 at 10:56 AM (3 years ago)

    What a great post Samantha!! Thank you for the reminder. I, too, can find myself so focused on the end goal, that I forget to appreciate my “now”! You helped keep me on track!! 🙂

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    • samantha
      July 15, 2014 at 11:04 AM (3 years ago)

      Great April, I’m so glad you liked it!! The now is where it’s at! ha xx

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  2. Yvelette
    July 13, 2014 at 11:21 PM (3 years ago)

    Love these quotes. This is a beautiful reminder to stay present. Thank you

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    • samantha
      July 14, 2014 at 8:54 AM (3 years ago)

      Fantastic!
      xxx

      Reply
  3. Anne Omland
    July 11, 2014 at 10:27 PM (3 years ago)

    Beautiful post, Sam! I can relate on so many levels. Working a corporate job and waiting to be happy…it’s exhausting just to remember it. I’ve tried to do what you’re doing and really find joy in the moment. Love this! And love your examples of your happy. xo

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    • samantha
      July 13, 2014 at 2:24 PM (3 years ago)

      Thanks Anne!
      I’m so glad you enjoyed it, and you’re right – it is SO exhausting!
      xxx

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  4. Llyane @FrenchOnSkype
    July 10, 2014 at 9:40 AM (3 years ago)

    Beautifully put, and the quotes are fantastic! Thank you so much!

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    • samantha
      July 11, 2014 at 3:51 PM (3 years ago)

      thanks for the lovely feedback Llyane! xx

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  5. Suzanne
    July 10, 2014 at 6:32 AM (3 years ago)

    You’re spot on Samantha. I’ve found that living in the moment is good since I never end up where I thought I’d be! Loved the lesson in Aussie vocab, too!

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    • samantha
      July 11, 2014 at 3:52 PM (3 years ago)

      haha and pash is such a great word! 😉
      It’s so true – I never end up where I expect either, but everything always works out in the end xx

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  6. Sara Yamtich
    July 10, 2014 at 4:12 AM (3 years ago)

    Awww, I love this! This is exactly the kind of stuff I need to remind myself and my own clients all the time. My tribe and I are the type to have that “Perpetual Longing” – always looking to perfect the world around us to such a point that we forget to look at what’s already beautiful. You’ve described it so well. Thank you!

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    • samantha
      July 11, 2014 at 3:53 PM (3 years ago)

      oh fantastic, I’m so glad you needed to hear this! I’d love for you to share it with your tribe if you think they’ll benefit from it.
      xxx

      Reply
  7. Hunter Yoga (@HunterCYoga)
    July 9, 2014 at 9:48 PM (3 years ago)

    Yes! It’s the worries that get us off track. Getting back on by being in the here and now is definitely the key. I love this:
    “The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.”

    And I LOVE this quote too: “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” Such a great reminder to practice compassion – with ourselves too, of course.

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    • samantha
      July 11, 2014 at 3:54 PM (3 years ago)

      I LOVE that last quote as well!
      It’s so important to remember, as otherwise we suddenly have spent out life on days that we didn’t enjoy!
      xx

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  8. april
    July 9, 2014 at 3:09 PM (3 years ago)

    “I’m happiest when I’m right where I want to be and I want to be right where I am.” i agree, samantha – that is indeed the journey. i love the delicious description of your week, and i applaud your magical revelation that you’re already where you need and want to be. (i also adore staying up late, snuggled in bed, reading. and i learned a new word today – pashing. how sweet!)

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 3:25 PM (3 years ago)

      haha the best word!
      Actually, ululate is the best word, but pash is a great one.
      Thanks for the beautiful comment xx

      Reply
  9. shelley ugyan
    July 9, 2014 at 12:44 PM (3 years ago)

    What a great reminder here ! I agree absolutely! Working with women with problematic eating issues this is a concept that is so overlooked. If we are not present for the journey it is almost impossible to see how far we have come !…and ” its never good enough” is far too common. Thanks for this beautiful post !

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 3:24 PM (3 years ago)

      Ah so true – we can’t see our progress if we aren’t present for the journey. Lovely.

      Reply
  10. Stacey
    July 9, 2014 at 11:43 AM (3 years ago)

    Really nice post! I identify with a lot of what you write about…I love how you phrased it, “not looking forwards, or backwards, or sideways, or wishing my moments away.” I’m certainly guilty of that at times, but my happiness lies in the present moment. Wishing you many more moments of love and enjoyment on your journey!

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 3:23 PM (3 years ago)

      thanks Stacey!
      I think we ALL forget sometimes that when we are looking tot he future we miss the present.
      Love and enjoyment to you too!! xx

      Reply
  11. Lily
    July 9, 2014 at 11:06 AM (3 years ago)

    What a lovely reminder to live in the moment. I aim to do that in as many areas of my life as possible, but especially with food. I just love sitting down to a meal and savoring every last bite.

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 3:22 PM (3 years ago)

      Absolutely Lily!
      I love eating a meal slowly at the table, ideally with company. x

      Reply
  12. Beth
    July 9, 2014 at 10:55 AM (3 years ago)

    Beautiful! I am practicing this more and more these days. And thanks for the translation of “pash.” My boys used to do that too – slimy, but adorable.

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 10:59 AM (3 years ago)

      haha so cute but yes so slimy 😉
      I’m glad you liked it, I have to practice it all the time as well.
      xx

      Reply
  13. Vanja Stace
    July 9, 2014 at 9:45 AM (3 years ago)

    Hi Sam, what a great post for me right now. Feels like I’m forever chasing that ‘other thing’, the thing that will make me happy – and not realising I can be happy in the now.

    I’m going to enjoy my day today – however stressful – because I get to run my own business and work on my own terms. So thank you for posting! Vanja x

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    • samantha
      July 9, 2014 at 10:30 AM (3 years ago)

      Oh fantastic Vanja!!
      So true – you run your own business, work for yourself, have lots more freedom than a 9-5er. To many people, you’re living the dream!
      I hope you have a happy day. xxx

      Reply

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