Who Told You What To Like?

I’ve recently become obsessed with a career blogger called Penelope Trunk. She’s a homeschooling, startup business woman with Aspergers who lives on a farm in Wisconsin, and calls it like it is. And due to all that, is hilarious.


She writes a lot about homeschooling, and letting kids find their passions and develop them, rather than forcing them to sit still all day doing things adults tell them they SHOULD be doing.

Although I don’t have a kid yet (no longer true by the time you read this) and I don’t plan to homeschool, this article about letting kids do what they love showed me…ME!

She says

People who hate their jobs but do them anyway are not somehow better than the people who love their jobs. So why do we condition kids to accept that they must do work they dislike?… It’s abnormal, in fact, to pretend to care about things just because someone told you it’s a good, proper way to spend your life.

It’s your life. You choose how you spend your time.

When I lived in London, I had a friend who worked as a corporate lawyer (so that was a really big job) who used to join us out after work on a Friday night and crash at 11:30 after working till 1 or 2am all week long. So he had plenty of money (ok, LOADS of money) but no time or energy to spend it. And surely that is the most valuable commodity of all.

I’m choosing now. I left a big corporate job to live my passions because the way we spend our time, and who we spend it with, shapes who we are. And I looked around and couldn’t see my tribe, and I looked inside myself and wasn’t happy with what I saw anymore.

  • What do you see when you look inside yourself?
  • When you look at your days, how are you spending your time?
  • Did you choose it? Or did someone, somewhere along the way, convince you that you SHOULD spend your time this way as it was a realistic, stable, ‘good’ career?
  • How many of your decisions about how to spend your time are based on things you truly love to do?

I’ve got a challenge for you today. Choose. Choose how you spend your time.

  1. Find one thing that you’re doing in the next week that you’ve said yes to and don’t want to do. Cancel it. Don’t give any excuses, don’t justify yourself, just politely bow out.
  2. Think of something that you love to do (spend some time reading, catch up with friends, go out to dinner, go to the movies, get some exercise, have a picnic in the park, head to the beach… It doesn’t need to be groundbreaking or cost a bomb, just be something you love to spend your time doing). Plan it. Put it in your diary and make it happen.

The small choices create your life, so choose how you spend your time.

If you want some more tips on how to choose the life YOU want, subscribe to my newsletter (up on the top on the right) and get my free ebook on how to shape a life you love for yourself!

Xx Sam




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2 Comments on Who Told You What To Like?

  1. Hayley
    September 25, 2013 at 10:09 AM (4 years ago)

    Love it Sam! Very liberating!

    • admin
      September 25, 2013 at 4:13 PM (4 years ago)

      Thanks Hayley!


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